Learning decisiveness in a no-merge area

Does this sound familiar: You take the most direct route and keep to the lane you need to be in, even if it’s slower. You get anxious when you need to cross multiple lanes of traffic or make a left-turn against on-coming traffic. You try to plan your route before you leave, because you need to know where you’re going.

That’s a description of my driving style. I’m a fairly cautious driver, and I usually take the same route to work every day. Because of the commute, I’ve become a lot more laid-back about waiting in traffic than I used to be.

Then one day I decided to take a different freeway onramp. And then I saw a worrying traffic sign: “No Merge Area.”

This caused me a small amount of panic. I watched the cars in front of me get stuck in traffic limbo, and nervously waited for my turn. But I wasn’t in a hurry, and rush hour was just getting started. I waited for a gap in traffic. And waited.  And waited. Only when I thought the “gap” between oncoming cars was safe enough did I step on the gas.

It was really stressful to accelerate to highway speed. I forgot that I was driving in “eco” mode, and felt the drag of the car as I accelerated. I kept looking in my rearview mirror, expecting to see the bumper of the car behind me. But I merged safely into traffic and everything was fine.

And because I was so anxious about it, and because my anxiety bothered me, I decided to take that onramp the next day. And the next, until I felt more comfortable with the onramp.

That “no-merge area” taught me a few things.

I learned to be patient, waiting for the cars ahead of me to safely enter the freeway, and waiting for an opening when it was my turn.

I learned to commit when I saw a safe opening, because merging too slowly is dangerous.

I learned that we can be decisive drivers and drive with aloha too.

Sometimes it’s good to challenge yourself to do things that make you nervous. I could have decided to never take that onramp again. But I kept going, and that onramp has helped me be a little more decisive in other ways.

Do you avoid any freeway onramps or offramps? Do you ignore any uncomfortable situations? How have you tried to challenge those uncomfortable situations?

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2 Comments on “Learning decisiveness in a no-merge area”

  1. mel Says:

    I avoid left turns on multi lane roadways with no dedicated left turn green light.


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