September is International Women’s Friendship Month. Friendship has been more on my mind since the pandemic… the friendships we have at different places and times in our lives.
Friendships not only prevent loneliness, they also increase our sense of belonging and purpose, help reduce stress, and improve our self-confidence, as Dan Brennan, MD reminds us in “Psychological Benefits of Friendship.”
I am blessed with some positive and encouraging friendships that support me, keep me going, and help me grow.
One of my best friends is a woman I’ve knowns since grade school. We don’t see each other too often, but when we get together, it feels like we haven’t been apart.
Most of my friendships are because of shared spaces. We went to school together, work together, or have the same interests.
Some of my co-workers turned into friends. We would go out to lunch and dinner, movies and shows, travel together, even do creative projects together.
Sometimes changing schools, switching jobs or moving to different cities changes our relationships. We don’t get together as often, or sometimes not at all.
And that’s okay. It’s okay to let friendships change over time, because the memory of their friendship remains with me.
My aunt has a close female friend whose friendship has changed. They don’t do as many things together, but they still talk on the phone and provide a steadfastness and sense of permanence in each other’s lives.
“True long-lasting friendship means accepting where each of you are at all life stages, and choosing to evolve differently, but together,” writes Brandy Joy Smith in “Female Friendships? It May Not Be What You Think.”
Kappa Delta Sorority shares some fantastic ideas to celebrate women’s friendship. For example, you could plan a girl’s night out with dinner and a movie, go on a hike together, write a kind note to a female professor who inspired you.
I don’t have any brothers or sisters, but I imagine that my female friends are like the sisters I choose.
What friendships do you nurture? How do you stay connected with your friends?